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Your Mind and Your Thoughts

Your Mind and Your Thoughts

At any time, within your mind, you can embrace....... It's always YOUR MIND and YOUR THOUGHTS You were taught, and what you learned, and what you brought in. Question all the Questions AROUND YOU but also QUESTION YOUR QUESTIONS WITHIN YOU If you ask yourself....."Am I ready?"" Say "why not" All these thoughts that we've got make them rhyme at any time You provide the bass within your breath and your heart You've already started when you get out of the deception that you have to resolve you You've already been Moving and Grooving to the baseline within your heart Hey How about you JUST EMBRACE YOU AND DO YOU Do right for you, and only you and when you do easily you will do right for EVERYONE AROUND YOU No one will love you more than you You are your one addiction You'll let go of all perceived afflictions Once you know... when your thoughts come in they belong to you Make Them Work For You You are the master of your mind All those choices, you own Your voices You are the magician You can rise with precision Ready to move you Read for you to do you As you pursue what you want to do Keep on moving As you grooving and pursuing you Always breath with abundance Allow your ability to thrive... You don't have to make this a survival situation Embrace your thriving without hesitation Make that your resistance Go right through and Embrace your existence EVOLVE Don't have to create yourself a problem For you to problem solve Don't have to sail right into the storm again No You'll know You can enjoy the waves and you can ride ALL THE WAVES and Create your own storm At select times after you... LOVE WHAT YOU HAVE TO DO Create a whirlwind you can Thrive in and Survive in When you're done Enjoy our beer Enjoy the clear Enjoy your breath ENJOY YOUR CLARITY WITHIN YOUR MIND because at any time... When you love what you have to do which includes you LOVING THE F#&K OUT OF YOU You can be calm, man You were not time bomb, then Even way back when When they said you were a time bomb, then NO THEY WERE SCARED OF YOU SO, DON'T BE SCARED OF YOU Because WHOEVER HAS HURT YOU HAS LIED No longer will you use those corrections Those false education Have no more hesitation For you As you embrace what you can do Feel it deep within your mind That inner feeling There is no ceiling That was a deception You are the correction As you through and embrace The Superman In You YOU CAN FLY NO LONGER WILL YOU DENY YOU More Below... :) The above video and the above rhyme comes from a freestyle jam at a weekly open mic, here in Orlando, Florida. They are always going to be your thoughts, and this includes what you are thinking right now. Our thoughts can be so encouraging, but they can also be so very hurtful. They are all ours, just the same. If our thoughts remind us of what we need to do, and this stresses us, it is good to embrace our subconscious is fighting for us. When the words come in within a negative way, embrace the words are meant for good for you, and you have the ability to educate the ones which are full of nonsense. You are the master of your mind, and when a thought triggers you, makes you feel in a bad way, embrace whether this thought is being honest with you. If it is hurtful because of what you haven't don't yet, embrace your ability to compromise with the part of you making this thought come to you. If you do have a pending promise, which you have been promising to yourself for a while, your subconscious is going to remind you of what you promised you. You promised it, whenever you promised it, because it is what you truly know is best for you. If you have thoughts come in about you that are not true, face them, because they belong to you. Challenge those, if you would like, or you can flat out change them around for you. WIGGLE YOUR THOUGHTS AROUND FOR YOU MAKE THEM HONEST MAKE THEM TRUE DO WHAT YOU KNOW IS BEST FOR YOU YOUR THOUGHTS ALL BELONG TO YOU MAKE THEM WORK FOR YOU YOU ARE THE MASTER OF YOUR MIND We can experience projections based off of false teachings, which is why, at the beginning of this rhyme, I shared "what you were taught." We are taught valuable life lessons, and very often, we are provided false teachings about the world, other people, those people, and ourselves.. Whoever has hurt you has lied to you, so if you endure negative self talk, stemming from those who have been abusers in your life, you may want to lock in on this fact... NO ONE WILL EVER LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOU If you are stopping yourself from being happy, due to replaying thoughts stemming from abusers, we can address you cutting the ties to these hurtful lies. THEY WERE SCARED OF YOU, SO DO NOT BE SCARED OF YOU I say your abusers were scared of you because there is no way an abuser is acting out of love You are reading this blog entry out of love, and I encourage you to embrace our deepest fear is often how powerful we can be. This begins as a fear because of our story. If you endured trauma as a child, you may have likely felt there was a limit to who you are and what you can be. As you learn to cut away the ties to the lies of what you are unable to do, you will feel more clarity about what your ideal path is for you and what you can do to get going on that path. IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO MAKE A CHANGE, BUT WHY NOT NOW? Change is strange. If you are considering changing a pattern, or facing your thoughts in a way you have never done before, change can be very very strange. It is not strange to want positive changes for you, so lean right into that strange feeling FOR YOU. www.progressivebeatcounseling.com

Evolve Through Resistance

Evolve Through Resistance

Thankfully, we will know when we have fallen out of alignment. Whether it was a call from a specific family member, a rude interaction with someone at work, replaying the scenes of a recent blowout with a partner, or one of a countless number reasons why we can find ourselves feeling suddenly less empowered, safe, and free.... We may find we are not saying things that we would normally say, allowing others to control the tempo or content within a conversation. We may find ourselves waiting to do what we have been so ready to do, for whatever reason, but for whatever the reason ever is, the real reason is YOU No one can make us not know what we already know about ourselves, with regards to how happy we can be, how confident we can feel, and how comfortable we can feel within our strength within us. We fall out of alignment when we choose to refuse our truth within any situation. These moments can happen for very good reason, but if after making the sacrifice, our conscious and unconscious mind are feeling a way we did not expect, or maybe a way that reminds you of a weaker time.... we have indeed fallen out of alignment. Here is a possible way to help you embrace you, realign yourself, and accept the necessity of facing you. When I say "facing you," I mean the essential self love skill of "owning your shit." Within the upcoming rhyme, you will read an often used rhyme of mine... "your thoughts belong to you, wiggle them around, make them honest, and make them true." This is referencing the importance of being honest about what is or is not your fault. What mistakes may be graded improperly, or having you carry so much guilt... preventing you from ascending to the next level of your development. We all make mistakes, and we learn from our choices. We learn from our successes and miracle moments, but we often learn far more from when we make mistakes. If someone hyper-focuses on the mistakes, and less on the learning which took place from the mistakes, he or she may inevitably be setting themselves up for another mistake or fall. When I say, "Face You. Every Part of You. Even the Part Which Makes You Doubt You," I am referencing my self love rule, You Have to Love Every Part of You. When we have fallen out of alignment, we have let one of those parts of us be hidden, or we pushed it away... for now. This can happen when endure a sudden change, a loss, an embarrassment, a trauma, or a perceived situation like the ones I just listed. We can fall out of alignment based off of our own projections, quite often. When I reference the importance of "You Facing You," it simply means you being honest with yourself. We want to take ownership of what we did do, and we want to be honest about what is not our fault. We want to learn from our mistakes, for if we had not made them before now, we could make those mistakes right now. We learn from all of our choices, and when we push away our pain, stemming from a traumatic moment, we are often pushing away the wisdom from that specific moment or time period, back when we simply did the best we could do with what we knew. Each Of your thoughts Your words They belong to you Wiggle them around Make them honest Make them true This still means you will have to face you Every part of you Even that part about you which makes you doubt you Whenever you feel resistance Embrace your existence Evolve Right Through ALL FEELINGS ARE MEANT FOR LOVE FOR YOU I know we have not been taught this is the case. When our anxiety manifests into a panic moment, we do not embrace it is often the signs of an awakening within us. Whenever you feel your anxiety increasing at a rapid rate, or so sudden, that you just know everyone can tell you are suddenly uncomfortable, I encourage you to... Hold your breath.... until you get that first little bit of resistance... and then you LET IT GO. Consider counting, as you pull in and hold your breath, knowing you will let the breath release, once the resistance becomes anything for you. You can push your resistance, as you get more familiar with this exercise, but always go into any of my breath work or meditative strategies with LOVE FOR YOU. This exercise can be done in your home, of course, but because of how subtle it will be to the world around you, you can let go of the fear of others sensing your fear. In fact, we can pull away from it being about you being in fear of anyone or anything. So often, our greatest fear is ourselves and how strong and powerful we can be. We can consider our increasing anxiety a former version of us.. or a younger version of us.. checking in to make sure we are okay, didn't forget anything, are listening attentiveness, or simply checking to make sure we are okay. YOU ARE OKAY. YOU ARE WORTH FIGHTING FOR. A suggestion which may help and make sense, right away, but if you need time to let it be fully accepted, you are no different than most. So much of what I am sharing, with regards to feelings, is foreign to what we are taught in school.... where we would get in trouble for talking too much or asking too many questions. Where children are told they can't follow directions or are an anger management problem or a conduct problem. So often, kids are labeled as "bad kids" when in reality, they have yet to learn how the love for themselves is more powerful than any love that can ever be given to them, for our love for ourselves connects us with a higher power, source, or God. Instability within a child, teen, or adult stem from the individual perceiving there is a lack within their lives, their needs are not being met, or their safety is perceivably in danger. Considering all feelings as being meant for love for you... goes against what we may have learned, with regards to our attachments to others. If someone grew up lacking what is necessary for her or him to feel capable of functioning, he or she say find themselves allowing these emotions to lead them into situations that could potentially enable him or her to feel she is considered more worthy by others.

Facing, Feeling, Loving, and Healing

Facing, Feeling, Loving, and Healing

As the man walks up to the edge of the mountain top, he remembers how far he had to climb to get to where he is. While knowing he is not done with climbing, he is taking some time to provide himself the acceptable time and space he needs to embrace what he now knows he is able to survive. He has survived everything up to this very moment in his life, and while he has felt very empowered, moving faster than he remembers ever moving, forward and toward his next baseline, he is looking down from his comfortable seat to explore why he felt fear, some panic, consistent hesitation about taking the final steps to reach his desired next goal. Through experience, he has learned he can assess his feelings, knowing all of this feelings are meant for him to feel more love for himself. He knows he is out of alignment, right here and right now, so he is now putting a focus on his breath, right here and right now. He has learned gravity has always kept him grounded, through all the storms he has ever faced, for he is here. He is present. He is a survivor, and he will survive himself getting in his way, once again. He knows he will learn from the feelings he has been experiencing, which have led to him questioning and questioning once again. He looks out into the distance, and he selects a place to hyper focus his focus. He is now giving full attention to a focal point he chooses, as he begins putting a focus on how his breath will be released, once he feels his lungs have been fully filled. He then releases what he no longer needs, while putting a hyper focus on his focal point, enabling him to make room for what can feed his soul. Him maintaining control on his breath, right here and right now, enables him to embrace his ability to focus, remain in control, and provide the healing energy within his breath. While knowing there is certainly uncertainty, within and around him, he is certain he is going to allow this time to be about his breath and his hyper focus, based off of his prevention of preventing his good intentions for himself. He then looks up into his mind's eye, and he says... All the feelings you feel are for LOVE FOR YOU You want to know when you are out of ALIGNMENT This does not mean you have to go into confinement Even if you have hidden from your feelings before You cannot hide from you anymore NO MORE Once you know your feelings are all meant for LOVE FOR YOU Way back when, this man wouldn't even dare to pretend he did not know what he does know now, as he takes a deep breath in, holds it until he gets that first bit of resistance, and he lets it out. He had to go through what he went through, including him questioning and holding back on showing what he can do, due to him not yet feeling safe with his internal and eternal mantra.... NO ONE CAN EVER LOVE YOU MORE THAN YOU LOVE YOU He knows his projections merely mean he must spend some time to realign and face the parts of him which may have been left behind. He assess whether his hesitation is based on a fear of failure, and he answers himself, "no." He asks his inner guide if he is again afraid of how powerful he has become, leading him to feeling he has become too much for others, and he immediately corrects this question, as as he feels this answer within the warmness of his mind's eye. His thoughts respond to the man's meditative breathing, easing up on the tension and intentional exaggeration of this whole situation. Why must I procrastinate on my ability to manifest and create? "I have to love every part of me. This includes the part of me which is making me doubt me, right here and right now. I am here on the mountain's edge, leaning in with love over fear, for I am not afraid of facing my fear with love. When I am aligned, I feel things become so easy for me, and while I am not used to things being so easy, I need to get used to it." The man knows he has fallen a number of times, due to him coming face to face with what he wanted in his life, very quickly, thinking and feeling there had to be something wrong. It was as though he felt he did not deserve having everything he has ever wanted, while feeling a variety of anxious feelings, including guilt, associated with it being so easy for him to have everything he wanted. He is good at what he has always wanted to be good at. He relies on no one to help him take the next steps, and he no longer feels he does not deserve to have what he wants in his life. He says out loud, "I have proven to myself I deserve this, and I forgive myself for making things harder for me. I also apologize to myself for being the one making things hard for me. I do not have to prove anything to anyone, and while this projection has benefited him back in his previous mazes, he knows it now all about him. "I know I am the only one stopping me now. I have nothing to prove to anyone, but I will not feel satisfied without me continuing on the path I feel as being mine, deep within me." I already try, but I also try to deny, and whenever I do this, I am hurting myself, which means I am also choosing to lie... to me. Whoever has hurt me has lied to me, and when I hurt myself, hold myself back on opportunities, or even try to talk myself off of my path, I am hurting and lying to me The man begins engaging in an open eye meditation, and as he looks up into his mind's eye, he sets his hands down on his legs, with his palms facing the sun above him. "I am aware I see an anchored boat in the distance, as my focal point. I am aware I see a tree to my left I am aware I see my path behind me I am aware I see my hand on my leg" "I am aware I hear my voice I am aware I hear silence around me I am aware I hear my thoughts within me I am aware I hear my exhale" "I am aware I feel more relaxed than when I began this exercise I am aware I feel empowered for facing myself, right here and right now I am aware my alignment is happening as I feel my exhale I am aware I feel my focal point is moving, way ahead of me, and that is a good thing" "I am aware I see my focal point moving even more, and that's okay I am aware I see my path inviting me back I am aware I see the CO2 within me, pulling away what is no longer needed within me" "I am aware I hear peace within my mind I am aware I hear my exhale taking even more doubt away I am aware I hear the healing properties of my self love, enter into my lungs"

All Feelings Are For Love For You.       You want to know when you are not aligned.

All Feelings Are For Love For You. You want to know when you are not aligned.

When your feeling lost inside LOOK BACK You can still see where YOU CHOSE TO HIDE At least a part of you You had to stuff it back Had to BITE YOUR TONGUE YOU CHOSE TO REMAIN SILENT But You have to know there are other parts of you Who want to REMIND YOU They are feeling LEFT BEHIND That's why you are feeling a bit shifty with your Thoughts and Feelings OUT OF ALIGNMENT So you try to hide or snooze away YOUR BLUES or you can just confide in me Just because you are out of alignment It doesn't mean you have to go into confinement Oh oh no You can't hide from you NO MORE Haven't you fought yourself for long enough RIGHT? No one has ever stopped you BUT YOU So embrace that all the parts within you WON"T DIE So whenever you try to deny even a part of YOU You'll Know You'll Know YOUR NOT ALIGNED Like the last, and the last, and the other LAST TIME You know you used to choose to fall to show HOW FAR YOU CAN CLIMB When you look back YOU CAN"T REWIND TIME but REMIND YOU You know what you can do You know how you've been able to survive You survive you getting IN YOUR WAY All those words that come in THOSE WORDS they belong to you so you own what you say WHAT YOU DO As YOU could pursue the path already set out for you Keep on resisting THIS EXISTENCE... ? How about you just let your truth be Why not... Just wait and see Just Be YOU How about You Just You WAIT AND SEE YOU Oh When you are aligned you'll know the part of you you chose to hide for so long.... It has grown even stronger But it is gonna make you feel bad IF YOU KEEP WAITING LONGER NO You can't even justify stopping you So just do you Get used to doing you at all times All the thoughts Wiggling around within that mind of yours It's not a chore to be you If you just EXIST and BE YOU The way you walk and you move and groove The energy is building up within you right Just keep on moving and grooving All the thoughts coming in Wiggle them around and make them work for YOU Because they belong to you You've got so many thoughts With all the weight You were taught To question you and what you can do But like I said No one has ever stopped you YOU CAN"T EVEN STOP YOU So just do DO YOU Oh this tough love is getting old May I scold you I don't need to You already scold you and GET ON YOU Allow the warrior within you To help you continue The path moving forward and toward There is no need for you ever hold back ANYMORE Get up and DO YOU with your HEAD UP HIGH AS YOU WALK ACROOS THE FLOOR There is no need for you to ever question No What you know about you Just be you YOU WAIT AND SEE, YOU You are gonna like Even being able to FIND JOY WITHIN SILENCE Bopping your head PUT A FOCUS ON YOUR BREATH Create your own resistance WITH LOVE As you strengthen you Just get used to YOU BEING YOU As you're no longer causing damage As you challenge all the deceptions Just wiggle them away All the lies and all the attempts and tries Tried to rearrange you, but YOU RE-REARRANGED YOU WITH YOU It's never too late to know you BUT WHY NOT NOW Now is the perfect time for you to Allow all your thoughts to wiggle through CREATE A RHYME Especially the ones that come in with THAT SPEED Allow them to feed your soul As you allow your fear to become more love for you There is NO FEAR OF THE DARKNESS WITH THAT LIGHT WIHTIN YOU Even the spec of light you try to hide you HAVE A FOCUS RIGHT HERE RIGHT NOW Allow all that love to be felt...... Somehow you have been able to hide but you can't hide from you You know you No one will ever love you more than you LOVE YOU So you might as well have that authentic love about you This tough love that you keep How about you no longer waste time Trying to fight through Don't pretend to know Don't pretend to believe BE YOU Your greatest fear is you being you So how about you just be you That's your greatest fear It's not about you would be able to DO YOU Your fear is WHAT WOULD HAPEN IF YOU ACTUALLY JUST CHOSE TO DO YOU? As you pursue exactly what is laid out for you Why procrastinate on your ability to MANIFEST AND CREATE When you are on your path Break the chains There is no wrath That was a deception Wiggle Away Just exist The correction is that the weight from the hate Can't wait to just DROP AWAY Once you embrace You own all the thoughts that come in You are in control of what you say Everything you feel is for love for you So when you try to hide that truth THAT'S TOUGH LOVE But you still get up and go

We Can Dig Into The Pain

We Can Dig Into The Pain

As you dig into the pain that was done to you You will find a treasure You buried a long time ago When you didn't feel it was okay to be you It is absolutely okay for you to be you Get used to you As you embrace all the gifts within you You have all the ability Stored up within you As you learn to move and groove and LOVE YOU All the thoughts wiggling around in that mind of yours It's not a chore to rearrange And lean right into strange Lean in to what you haven't done yet But You Want To Do Now Why not take a little bit Before getting back to all that other shit Right How about you no longer wait for you YOU, YOU wanting to do do YOU and feel right Within your mind As your mind takes you to another place in time About all the shit you had to fight through You can fight You have always been fighting and surviving within this WHIRLWIND WE ARE IN How about you take a little while Embrace your style Walk right into the YOU Just keep on moving and grooving All the thoughts coming in Wiggle them around and make them work for you YOU So Set your boundaries and just do you Take all this time for you and what you're going through That's Right No one will ever love you more than you love you So embrace your ability to keep growing into loving you Right No one will ever love you more than you love you So do take some extra special time just for loving you Right When. you know how to love yourself Right You know how to tuck yourself in when in bed at night A focus on your breath You're living and your breathing And A survivor within this Hellified Whirlwind

You Have To Love What You Have To Do

You Have To Love What You Have To Do

Depression is not a death sentence. It is a reminder that we have fallen off of our path, and we are in need of LOVE. The love we need is not from someone else, and while this can be helpful, NO ONE CAN LOVE US MORE THAN WE LOVE OURSELVES, so the true answer to the questions of depression comes from us. We have to do what we know we need to do for ourselves. We need it, so we deserve to identify what we need as a must, or a HAVE TO DO. Whatever it is you know you have been knowing you need to start doing more of for you, slide this action into your HAVE TO DO. Be mindful of what you HAVE TO DO, and DO for you. If you are experiencing sadness, or darker sadness.... DEPRESSION, embrace this HAVE TO DO LIST, and assess how long you have you been saying you NEED TO Do things which have yet to be done? Ask yourself this, whenever you are experiencing sadness, darkness, depression, and various levels of anxiety. The fear of failing can often cause someone to not try. The fear of having everything we want, for many, is what causes them to sabotage. It seems silly to think we could possibly be afraid of success, but survivors of trauma will often have this happen with them. Be mindful of my SELF LOVE RULES and SUBCONSCIOUS SEEDS, for you have to know you, for you are the only you, and this life only belongs to you. Whoever has hurt you has lied to you- If you were ever made to think and feel you can't be successful in life, by someone who hurt you, intentionally, this belief you carry is a lie. Let it go. No one will love you more than you love you- When you identify something as a HAVE TO DO, set aside time for you to at least make the plan for a change. If it relates to how you treat someone, embrace no one can love them more than they love them, and once they get this fact, they will be gone. Do not wait to change, when it comes to how you treat others. Treat others with love NOW. Love What You Have To Do, so that you can enjoy What You LOVE TO DO, without worrying about all the HAVE TO DO things you have yet to do. We all procrastinate, at times, and if we can truly LOVE WHAT WE HAVE TO DO, the fun, LOVE TO DO things will be even more enjoyable. When we only do what WE LOVE TO DO, leaving what WE HAVE TO DO... for later.. we are losing our focus, and hopefully, the anxiety of us doing this will make us come back to the path to DO WHAT WE HAVE TO DO, LOVE WHAT WE HAVE TO DO, so that we can protect our love for ourselves. Once you decide on something is a "Need To Do," you have to do it. Once you even have a thought, "this is something I need to do," you have to know you have to do it for you. Once something becomes a true need, and we hold off on fulfilling this need, we have set ourselves up for mental and emotional consequences, down the road, unless we negotiate a plan, within ourselves, for us to address this "Need." We have to love what we have to do, and once an idea comes to us about something we feel is a need, due to it being something we know would help us on our continuation down our path, us refraining from taking care of this need will lead to our subconscious reminding us about it.

Your Thoughts Belong To You

Your Thoughts Belong To You

You are the one Who your thoughts belong to Always think for you Never against you You must decide yourself You deserve to live Each day With so much to give To your number one Which has to be you You are the one Who your thoughts belong to you When it is time to fight the battle up inside your mind A stronger warrior than you You will never find You are the one Who your thoughts belong to Always think for you Never against you You must decide yourself You deserve to live Each day With so much to give To your number one Which has to be you You are the one Who your thoughts belong to to

There's A Bear With You

There's A Bear With You

Charles Mendler, MS, LMHC, CCHt Bear with me, please As I bear with you But when you care to see There is a bear with you Yes A bear just waiting there Next to you Send him down the hill And he will bear right through Any challenge or resistance You need to face As we all bear witness The mix of strength and grace Making those without a bear Make you feel bare and out of place The thing is... Those who walk with the bear Can light up the entire place The bearless ones Like to have their fun Allowing their envy To manipulate The chosen Bearful ones You have forgotten about the bear As though it was a disgrace The bear was made to hide When you were left there bare inside Inside The Bear took things in stride Every once in a while The Bear would sneak in And Slide...... Down the hill again Enjoying his fight For his one true friend You Yes You Please bear with me As I bear with you Are you ready to bear witness to YOU The Bear With You He Belongs To You And He Wants You To Know HE IS YOU

No One Can Love You More Than You Love You

No One Can Love You More Than You Love You

No One Can Love You More Than You Love You Embrace this as being true and you will never ever worry about the love around you because you know no one loves you more than you It makes it so much easier for you to Find the Love you Need around You When you don't need Someone else's air to breathe You don't need their opinions For YOU To find something you believe No No No Stay Aware Of all the deceptions trying to hypnotize you With lies about you No. Take a deep breath in let it go No One Can Love You More Than You LOVE YOU This doesn't mean you don't have love all around you It just means you love the sound within you As you get up and continue and wiggle those thoughts around and make them right within your mind YOU CAN BE YOUR OWN ADDICTION meaning You can rise above all perceived afflictions Look down Pick and choose How much Time Energy Do you want to lose But Entertain the right for you to just stay Look the other way and climb away Keep on rolling MOVING YOU No One Can Ever Love You More You LOVE YOU No one else is within your brain No one else has carried YOUR PAIN NO NO NO Never justify inflicting pain NO In this HELLIFIED WHIRLWIND Trying to survive within It's so much better to be giving From within Within this HELLIFIED Sometimes the weight is too much and it keeps on pushing you down But you keep yourself up You keep your SELF Off the ground Drop the weight associated To all the lies To all the tries Cut the ties and let go of the trance Change your thoughts for you As you pursue EXACTLY What YOU want from YOU

You Can Be Your Addiction

You Can Be Your Addiction

You can be your addiction, meaning you can rise above any perceived limitation or hesitation about what you should or should not do with your time, your energy, and with your actions. You can pick and choose what you choose or choose not to do. You have the right to be choosy with what you choose to do or not do. You are the only one your heart is pumping blood for. You are the only one seeing with your eyes. You are the only one who has walked in your footsteps. You are the only one who carries your physical and emotional weight. You are the only one who speaks for you and has the thoughts within your brain. You are the only one your thoughts belong to. Substances.. You can be your addiction, meaning you can make every step and move you make about you, knowing you are the one who knows what is or is not right for you. This does not go along with someone who is narcissistic, or anyone who is selfish and never thinks of others. This does not mean that at all. What this means is you have the ability to pull away from anything that does not serve you well, knowing you can pick and choose what you use or refuse to use. We can think of a substance as a friend who has become, or has always been toxic. Maybe, way back, this friend made you feel good, made you laugh uncontrollably, and was there during your time of need. If we are looking at this relationship as an issue today, however, there is a reason for this shift. Relationships change, and this is no different with our relationship with substances. We know how people can be very intoxicating, and this applies to some more than others. You have the right to step away from codependent relationships, and you have the right step away from a substance that has taken on this same type of role in your life. Think of the money you will save, without having to pay the way of this toxic substance. You have the right to be here, and you have survived everything up to this moment, right here and right now. You also have the right to feel good and thrive here. Way back when, a substance or drug may have helped you to feel good, within this Hellified Whirlwind we are living in. A drug that once seemed to aid you, or help you get through, may have now brought more trouble than it is worth. I am in no way judging substance use, nor am I saying you should go use some substances. I am here to say You Can Be Your Own Addiction. You chose to allow this friend in the door, and if the friend is no longer making you feel like a friend, embrace you can chose to refuse it's company. The drug has no life, within your life, once you no longer provide it life. People Can Be Like Drugs. They can make us experience a serotonin boost, and they have the ability to cause us to have a panic attack. They can make our heart race, bring chills down our spine, and they can cause us to have a heart attack, cause us to lose all of our money, and can bring trauma or an increase of trauma into our lives. Embrace our ability to immediately choose to look down, from a new baseline, anything you are questioning having a place in your life. You have the right to pick and choose, so be very choosy with whatever or whomever you choose to ingest. People.... You can be your addiction, meaning you can pick and choose who you want to spend your time with, knowing you have the right to pick and choose whose energy works with you or against you. Being your own addiction does not mean you do nothing wrong. Not at all, but it does mean you can decide, within any relationship equation, whether someone is right or wrong for you. If you feel things are not equal, but you want to stay longer, so be it, but it is good to know, deep down, you have the right to have things be equal, and one day, you may not want to stay any longer. You can be your very own addiction, which means you can pick and choose, and you have the right to be choosy.

The Maze Master                                       by Charles Mendler, LMHC, CCHt

The Maze Master by Charles Mendler, LMHC, CCHt

It's a Hellified Whirlwind we are living in. Trying to survive in. So many are doomed before they could even begin within. Within this Hellified Whirlwind Tell me when, when, when... When did you realize? When did you realize? Flip around. We are setting on the edge of the mountain top, looking down. Everything you see. Everything you did. Everything THEY told you to be. You are here with me. EMBRACE ALL THE GOOD IN YOU IT'S UP TO YOU AS YOU PURSUE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WERE MEANT TO DO SO MUCH STRENGTH IT TOOK FOR YOU TO MAKE IT THROUGH AND YOU ARE HERE YOU CAN USE ALL OF YOUR STRENGTH FOR YOU AS YOU PURSUE EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANT FROM YOU Looking back at those evil doers. Your abusers. I feel rage, so let's normalize why you are feeling that rage. About that anger, it helped you to get away from the maze Brought you all the way through to the mountain top. Because you are here. You have survived all of the past and dark times within your life. You have the light You have the right You have the gift You made it through the maze, and that makes you amazing. You have to be crazy to somehow not know how YOU ARE AMAZING! I empathize and understand how it happens, where you had to Disassociate from the hate because the evil ones wouldn't wait You had to disassociate from the pain had to stuff that shit way back in your brain and that's why it took a while for you to know you You may have been thinking... "This can't be all of me." YOU ARE RIGHT Because you are a survivor, and you are here Anything about you, which makes you doubt you Meaning any doubt you have ever had about you Make that part about you No one will love you more than you LOVE YOU So, be mindful of how you can start showing you You are loving you more Looking back at the maze So amazing You have to admit your amazing

Love Yourself Right

Love Yourself Right

Charles Mendler, MS, LMHC, CCHt Get used to doing you at all times All those thoughts wiggling around in that mind of yours It's not a chore to rearrange, and lean right into strange Lean in to what you haven't done yet, And you want to do now Why not take a little bit Before getting back to all that other shit Right How about you no longer wait for you wanting to do you and feel right Within your mind As your mind takes you to another place in time About the things you had to fight through You can fight You have always been fighting and surviving Within this whirlwind we are in Ha Ha How about you take a little while Embrace your style Walk right into the ideal you Just keep on moving and grooving All the thoughts that keep coming in Wiggling them around and make them work for you Right So set your boundaries And just do you Spend some special time for you And what you're going through That's Right No one will ever love you more than you love you So do take some extra time into loving you Right No one will ever love you more than you love you So be more accepting of wats to show love to you Right No one will ever love you more than you love you So do put some extra time into loving you Right When you know how to love yourself right You know how to tuck yourself into bed at night A focus on your breath.. Your living and your breathing And a fighter and a survivor within this whirlwind Within this Hellified Whirlwind we are in Trying to survive within So much better to be giving from within Within this Hellified Whirlwind You never justify inflicting pain No, no, no... All choices Those are yours and yours to blame Whenever there is pain ever going on within your mind You embrace this time for you Is some time set for loving you Right