You have the right to be here

I am not sure what brought you to this page. Maybe you are searching for answers. You are searching for support, or maybe you are searching for someone who understands. I have had my dark days, and I have had to battle depression in my lifetime. It can make you stay in bed too long, call in to work when you need the money, avoid phone calls or text messages, and forget about your daily responsibilities. When dealing with depression, the only time you may feel able to truly show how you feel is when you are alone, and when you are alone, you may find yourself searching for answers.

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You are not alone. There is always someone you can talk to, 24/7.

"This is your life

You are not giving up

This is your life

You are not giving up

It is your right

You are not giving up

Because you have

the right to be here"

You do. It is true. You do have the right to be here, and you know this, and this is why you are here. You may have just been searching for a page that matches your feelings, and the specific phrase or statements you used brought here. How long have you been feeling this way? When was the first time you felt feelings of depression or feelings of guilt and shame? If you mind goes back to when you were a child or a teenager, please pay attention, read, and reread what I am going to share with you.

Whoever has hurt you has lied to you.

Who ever made you feel your life is not worth living has lied to you.

As a survivor of abuse, I was taught early that I did not matter. I was taught I did not deserve to feel safe, and I learned early that I did not live in a safe world. We do live in an unsafe world, and you have been a survivor within this unsafe world. You were lied to by the ones who chose to hurt you and told you that you couldn't do what you wanted to do or be happy. You deserved to be treated with love and respect, and you should have been taught to love yourself. Those who abuse their children have a difficult time doing this because it is hard to imagine a child abuser who loves themselves. Anyone who can hurt you can lie to you. You have survived this long, and it is time for you to challenge the distortions caused by those who abused you and failed you.

If you feel alone now, whether because of a break up, friends abandoning you, or you just not feeling as though you fit in anywhere, embrace how you have been able to survive while alone for most of your life. Nobody is in your mind but you. Nobody can tell you more about who you are than you. Nobody can ever love you more than you love yourself. You were taught at some point that you do not deserve love from others, or you were taught it was okay for you to be harmed. These lessons came from someone who seriously and selfishly hurt you, and...

Whoever CAN hurt you

Will lie to you

Whoever HAS hurt you

Lied to you

Whoever WILL hurt you

Will Lie to you too

Whoever told you

You cannot do



That is what they do

Remember, whoever has intentionally caused you harm has also lied to you. They lied with the act of abuse, teaching you that you deserve to be harmed, but they also lied by treating you in a way that taught you that you do not deserve to be happy. You were taught not to believe in your full potential.

Abusers Lie. It is what they do. Whoever has said you cannot do has lied to you.

This is your life, and it is your life to live. To yourself, be willing to give. Give yourself a chance. You deserve to be here. Be open to talking things through, contact a trained professional, and be open to talking through what you have survived in your lifetime.

YOU ARE NOT WHAT SOMEONE ELSE HAS DONE TO YOU. You have survived the ones who harmed you because you are here.


This means you are strong!! You have fought for this long. Be open to letting go of the weight associated with what others think or feel. You have a right to be heard.

You have the right to be here!!!

Suicide Prevention

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You are not alone. There is always someone you can talk to, 24/7.

You are a survivor, and you deserve to be here

Charles Mendler, MS, LMHC, CCHt

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